I asked my husband this evening what I should study and post. He was a little curious after I told him about my revelation about my role as a Christian wife. He wanted to know what he needed to do as a Christian husband. Here’s what I found; in Ephesians 5:25-29 it says this:
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.
Without a husband’s love, a wife cannot thrive. I’m going to venture a guess and say most people have respect and love for themselves. Husbands need to love their wives the same way they love themselves. Just as Jesus loves us. Yes, the husband is the head of the house. That means he needs to take care of everything in his house, including his wife. And I don’t just mean physically take care of her, take care of her emotionally and mentally. A loving husband is one of the greatest gifts a woman can receive. Jesus does not want us to serve him and not each other. If spouses aren’t serving and loving each other, are they really serving Him? Not serving each other is being disobedient to God, which is a sin in and of itself. So as for my husband and me, we choose to be obedient and serve the Lord. I choose to submit to him, and he chooses to love and cherish me.
Recently I have been thinking about my role as a wife. I got married at 17, my husband was 18. We are one week away from our two year anniversary and I have taken this time to reflect. I feel like we have had an okay two years. I love him, he loves me. We have a daughter whom we love very much. We’ve had mostly happy times. But I sit back and look at my role as a Christian wife. And I feel as though I have failed. It’s no secret in my house that I have quite the attitude. I’m stubborn, hard headed, and like to always be right. My attitude has made my marriage not as good as it could be. Ephesians 5:22-23 says this:
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
For the last two years, I have not been submitting myself to my husband. I have been my own leader, my own head. The Lord wants us to submit ourselves to our husbands because he is the head of the house, not the wives. Just as God is the head of His house. Because of my disobedience, we have struggled. I closed off my ears and shut my eyes, but I opened my mouth too often. I did not allow my husband to lead as he should have. When I married my husband, I knew he was a preacher. He was a new preacher, he had only preached twice. I wanted to support him in his ministry and be the wife he needed. Instead, I became the wife I wanted to be. I was disobedient to my calling. With disobedience comes consequences and those consequences were heartbreaking. I had to put myself in check and tell myself to give it to God, like I should have in the first place. It’s taken a while, but God and His teachings have taken center stage in our lives once more. I can’t thank God enough for his never ending mercy that he has shown my family. We have made a lot of mistakes, and will likely make more, but I know we will look toward him to help us through our trials.